I use to play basketball in high school and college, so being competitive comes natural to me. In my head I use to “keep score” on arguements between my ex and I. Not realizing that my pride was affecting my self-esteem and relationship.
Pride causes great difficulty in any relationship. When one person is prideful and the other is humble, the relationship will gimp along. It will be difficult and painful and filled with conflict. When both people are prideful, it is an all out war ( This was us! YIKES!!)
It is apparent to me that on most occasions our pride and ego are taking the best out of us in terms of accepting humility, which is essential sometimes and will enable us to put our life back in order when we see the truth from a different perspective. When we are able to drop the ego and pride, we do see the situation in a whole new light. There is nothing wrong in being humiliated from time to time and necessary because that will build up our self-confidence to move forward in life with a new understanding and awareness in light of the situation.
Pride (n): inordinate self-esteem : conceit
This is the type of pride I’m talking about, and here are two ways it will ruin your life.
1. Riskless In Detroit
There are plenty of people who lack the risk tolerance to start a business. Even if everything else is in place for them (skill, desire, funding, idea, business plan), they can’t bring themselves to risk the time, money, reputation, or effort in something that could fail. Their low risk tolerance rules out a great number of opportunities. These people aren’t necessarily prideful, but pride is a common reason for this.
Pride makes us self-conscious. When we think so highly of ourselves, we tend to protect our (self-assigned) status rather than strive for something better. Pride forces us to focus on the downside instead of the upside, no matter how significant. “What if I failed and everyone saw me?”
2. Pride Makes You Weak, Vulnerability Makes You Strong
Pride contest has no winner because nobody likes the winner. Humans don’t respond well to being put down, and pride gives others that feeling with its “better than you” implications. Humility has the opposite effect. If you (amazing as you are) put others above yourself, they’ll feel good whenever they’re around you. They’ll like you!
Many business relationship issues are caused by pride. If you can’t admit you’re wrong, it’s your pride telling you to “win” the argument. If you take an all or nothing stance it’s because giving any credit to others hurts your pride. If you have a lot of pride, you might even refuse to communicate, which is the worst relationship blunder a person can make.
Pride alters communication and connection. When you put yourself on a pedestal, it makes it difficult for anyone to get close to you. Your ability to be vulnerable, which is the primary way we show trust to each other, will be compromised. Pride and vulnerability can’t coexist. If I show you my weakness, my pride takes a back seat because I’ve just shown imperfection, and pride is an illusion of perfection that we tell ourselves and others.
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